It’s one thing to want to help a friend who’s struggling, but many of us don’t know where to begin or worry we might make things worse. Here are six ways you can support a friend going through a tough time.
- Hold space – You don’t need to have all the answers, but trying to puts unnecessary pressure on yourself. Sometimes just being present is enough. It helps counter their self-isolation, encourages them to move, and provides a break from the stress.
- Listen and validate – Engage in the conversation by asking questions and actively listening. Sharing your own relatable experiences can help validate what your friend is going through, as they often feel like they’re the only ones dealing with certain feelings.
- Encourage healthy coping – Suggest activities like exercise, maintaining a healthy diet, journaling, reading, or spending time in nature. Men often associate stress relief with substances, like “Come over, let’s have a beer” While moderation may be okay, this can easily turn into overconsumption and create an unhealthy link between stress and substance use. Encourage healthier associations with stress.
- Keep checking in and invite them out – Small gestures can have a big impact on someone who feels alone in their mental struggle. A kind word or an invitation to spend time together can mean the world.
- Know your boundaries – This is crucial. You don’t need to have all the answers. If you’re unsure or uncomfortable, avoid giving advice or commenting on issues outside your scope. If you aren’t a mental health expert, it’s important not to act like one.
- Provide information for professional help – Sometimes, not knowing where to turn is a major barrier. A quick online search can point you to the nearest health unit or crisis support line. Offering this kind of help shows how much you care and how concerned you are about their well-being.
Written by,
Joel Brazier
Vernon, BC
info@generationscounselling.com
**Please know that if a friend is ever threatening suicide you should call your local police immediately. For further information or to contact the author with any questions, please email Joel directly at info@generationscounselling.com with the subject line FOF. **